While childcare for my 3 boys continues to be ongoing saga, I thought that I would write about the process. When searching for a nanny you must first decide what you want. Deciding what you want is harder than it sounds. What role will the nanny play? Mother, Grandmother, Big sister, Wicked step mother, or employee. With each of these role comes advantages and disadvantages. Then comes the selection process. It's like an opportunity to interview a future family member and you can only hope to make that determination in an hour or so but whatever decision you make can have far reaching consequences.
You come to expect more out of the nanny than you expect from yourself as a mother and if they can't live up to that fantasy in you head, somehow you have failed. This is very unfair to both the nanny and the mother and causes inner turmoil and guilt. Childcare is one of those topics that wasn't really discussed during my first pregnancy and I think that I just thought that it was really a non issue. I was so wrong. You only have a limited amount of time to shape the clay God has blessed you with and if your hands cannot be used you must examine and the new potters hands for firmness, gentleness, cleanliness and very few stress lines. My clay has a mind of its own and needs hands that are willing to shape with gentle hands as the wheel turns but not be discouraged if the masterpiece falls in on itself.
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