My Spirited Child

Everyone has an opinion when it comes to the causes of children's behavior. What I find interesting is that for every hypothesis and even theory I can find a contradictory view point. I love my spirited child with all my heart but all this research and advise is messing with my head. We can't even come to an agreement within the family as to what we should do next but I knew I needed to take action. Now that I have taken action I am second guessing that decision. Everyone's opinion is shaded with political view points and previous experiences. I guess I just have to come to terms with the fact that no one is in "my" shoes. While many parents may have similar experiences with spirited children no one has had the same life experience, making a one size fits all solution impossible. That being said, passing judgment should be kept in the recesses of your mind and not readily shared unless asked.
As much as I want my son to feel successful I guess that's all I'm really trying to feel as a parent.
I want to feel comfortable in my shoes.